What if I Don't Pray Enough?

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Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up.
                                                                                    -Luke 18:1
 
Here’s one secret I’ve discovered in talking with people about their prayer lives: nobody feels like they pray enough.
 
I feel it.  And sometimes I wonder if that’s a referendum on my overall spiritual vitality. If I really loved Jesus, wouldn’t I naturally want to pray all the time? And what does it mean if I don’t?
 
I appreciate that the Scriptures don’t over-spiritualize the spiritual journey. Here, Jesus is telling his closest disciples that they will at various times need to employ some level of effort and deliberate willpower to always pray and not give up.
 
The implication, of course, is that those disciples will at times be tempted to give up on praying. That sounds just like me.
 
So if you don’t feel like praying today what does that mean about you?
 
Good news: it doesn’t mean anything about you other than you’re normal. Run your race. Don’t over-spiritualize it or get all caught up in the comparison trap. Maybe you need to start here: Always pray. Don’t give up.
 
Prayer might not come naturally. That’s okay. Always pray, don’t give up. You might not see anything happen right away. That’s okay. Always pray, don’t give up.
 
Other people might sound better than you. That’s okay. Jesus isn’t asking you to sound like anyone else.  God didn’t give you a voice so that you could try your best to sound like some other voice.  He gave you your own voice for a reason.  One of those reasons he makes explicit right here: always pray, don’t give up.
 
And just know that most all of us from time to time need the reminder from Jesus to do this—to always pray and not give up.
 
What do you think is the appropriate role of willpower in spiritual growth? What do you think it looks like to always pray and not to give up?

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Katie, so grateful for you embracing your gift of prayer--and figuring out how to steward that gift in a way that's not legalistic! Blessings on you and thanks for your prayers for our church community.
What if I don't pray enough? I think about that often, but then my thinking turns "legalistic".... feeling guilty that I don't pray enough....when the truth is, my prayer life seems to depend upon the gravity of what I'm praying about. I have faith that God hears my prayers and that He answers them according to His plan, but knowing and believing that, I should be on my knees 24/7. Can anyone really pray that fervently and persist in prayer? And how do I prioritize what gets prayed for and what doesn't? I have been given the gift of prayer, and knowing in my heart and having faith that prayer is so powerful, why don't I spend more time doing it? So the question for me is not "What if I don't pray enough", but "why don't I pray enough?".
Great stuff, as always, thanks to you both! I think you're both hitting on something about a vibrant prayer life that is continuous without taking the form we typically think of in prayer. I agree that there comes a time when life just needs to be prayer, you can't possibly pray for everything and everyone, and you need to release all of it to the Holy Spirit. Intercession is an important work, but deeper than intercession is constant surrender, which is at the core of it all and the place where all genuine prayer starts, I think. Thanks again y'all!
Great stuff, as always, thanks to you both! I think you're both hitting on something about a vibrant prayer life that is continuous without taking the form we typically think of in prayer. I agree that there comes a time when life just needs to be prayer, you can't possibly pray for everything and everyone, and you need to release all of it to the Holy Spirit. Intercession is an important work, but deeper than intercession is constant surrender, which is at the core of it all and the place where all genuine prayer starts, I think. Thanks again y'all!
I'm glad we're into the parables. There is always something fresh and new and relevant to be discovered there.
This is perhaps not relevant here, but I think about the "pray without ceasing" verse.
The only thing I can think of that I do without ceasing is breathe. Or, maybe more encompassing--live. So there must be prayer that isn't formulated.
I know--I think I know!-- this parable is about something different, about petitioning for as long as it takes for justice to happen.
I'm thinking what helps me here is when I am desperate and/or when I know there is no viable recourse but to trust God to step in and do something only He can do. (Which could be to move a person to do something. Doesn't have to be something obviously miraculous.)
My problem is that once I begin to intercede-pray, my mind floods with more and more people who need intercession-prayer. I get swamped. So I have to stop and just be still and let everything go. That way I can close the floodgates down to a trickle coming through.
(I wish it were possible to read these comment sections over to see if I've written logically!)
Sometimes I feel comforted that getting out of bed is a form of prayer, or breathing or smiling at a stranger are all forms of prayer by entering into Jesus' life. Sometimes I use the Examen prayer model by Father Ignatius. Sometimes I look at my picture of Jesus and talk or listen I also like praying with others. I am not a regimented, consistent person so a kaleidoscope of prayer works for me. I do a lot of quick BTW prayers throughout the day.

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